The Cuckhold Husband

While the Shariah stresses greatly kindness, love, tolerance and understanding towards the wife, Rasulullah s.a.w. criticized the husband who lacks manly honour and permits his wife free mingling with other males. Such a husband has been described by Rasullulah s.a.w. as a day-yooth (a cuckold.

Such a man is disgraceful and dishonourable. Despite having been divinely appointed the Hakim(ruler) of the home, the day-yooth, not only abandons his obligation of protecting the morals and modesty by permitting her to speak and associate with males, destroys his Deen and oversees the destruction of the Deen of his family. Allah Ta'ala says in the Quran Majeed:

" O People of Imaan! Verily, some among your wives and your children are your enemies, therefore beware of them."

When wives and children induce the husband to flout the laws of Allah Ta'ala then they effectively play the role of the enemies. There is no greater enemy than the enemy of Iman and Deen. A husband should not allow his fmaily to deflect him from the Shariah. He should not concede to the un-Islamic demands of his wife and children. He should not buckle under the nagging and insistence of his wife. For the sake of maintaining a false idea of peace, he should not relent and fulfill the un-Islamic and haraam desires of his wife and children.

The limit of the husband's tolerance and submission to the wife's indiscretion is the confines of the Shariah. In the matter of his rights, he should accept her failings and short comings. When she back-chats and passes indiscreet remarks, he should show tolerance. But, when she demands and desires things that Allah Ta'ala has forbidden, then the husband should refuse with such resoluteness which will not crack under her nagging. In the matter of obedience to the Shariah he should leave no ambiguity.From the very inception his attitude in this regard should be well understood by the wife. A woman who refuses to submit to the Shariah is prepared to ruin her marriage. Let the decision to be hers. If she refuses to live as a Muslim wife, let her opt out of the marriage. A Muslim man cannot pass his life in the company of one whom the Quran has designated an enemy.
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"The Pious Husband"
Az Zaujus Salih