It was narrated that in the days that Musa (Alahi salaam) wandered with Bani Israel in the desert an intense drought befell them. Together, they raised their hands towards the heavens praying for the blessed rain to come. Then, to the astonishment of Musa (Alahi salaam) and all those watching, the few scattered clouds that were in the sky vanished, the heat poured down, and the drought intensified.
It was revealed to Musa that there was a sinner amongst the tribe of Bani Israel whom had disobeyed Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) for more than forty years of his life. “Let him separate himself from the congregation,” Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) told Musa (Alahi salaam). “Only then shall I shower you all with rain.”
Musa (Alahi salaam) then called out to the throngs of humanity, “There is a person amongst us who has disobeyed Allah for forty years. Let him separate himself from the congregation and only then shall we be rescued from the drought.” That man, waited, looking left and right, hoping that someone else would step forward, but no one did. Sweat poured forth from his brow and he knew that he was the one.
The man knew that if he stayed amongst the congregation all would die of thirst and that if he stepped forward he would be humiliated for all eternity.
He raised his hands with a sincerity he had never known before, with a humility he had never tasted, and as tears poured down on both cheeks he said: “O Allah, have mercy on me! O Allah, hide my sins! O Allah, forgive me!”
As Musa (Alahi salaam) and the people of Bani Israel awaited for the sinner to step forward, the clouds hugged the sky and the rain poured. Musa (Alahi salaam) asked Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala), “O Allah, you blessed us with rain even though the sinner did not come forward.” And Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) replied, “O Musa, it is for the repentance of that very person that I blessed all of Bani Israel with water.”
Musa (Alahi salaam), wanting to know who this blessed man was, asked, “Show him to me O Allah!” Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) replied, “O Musa, I hid his sins for forty years, do you think that after his repentance I shall expose him?”
Source: from the article by Shaikh Muhammad Al-Shareef.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Islam and Love
One does not discuss love, one lives and feels it. To discuss love is to speak where there are no more words left. A human can only talk about love. O my dear reader! Read this piece of writing as the one “about love”.
Love is like light, lovelessness is like darkness. Darkness can’t have a source. Darkness is the state when there is no light. But there must always be a source for light. There can be no love without a source as there can be no light without a source.
Allâh (Swt) Is the Source of love. The river of love falls down from Allâh (Swt). For He (Swt) Is Al-Wadûd. The Name Al-Wadûd is in double voice. This voice is characterized by bearing in itself both active and passive forms. So, the Name Al-Wadûd means both “the Most Loving One” and “the Most Loved One”. To put it in other words, this name denotes both “the Ever Loving One” and “the One Wishing to be loved”. That’s the difference distinguishing this Name from others.
Allâh (Swt) Is Ar-Razzâq, “He Provides sustenance”. Allâh Is Al-Khalaq, “He Creates”. Allâh Is Al-Ghaffâr, “He Forgives”. Allâh Is Ar-Rahmân and “ He Has mercy”. These and the like Names are single-sided. But when it comes to the Name Al-Wadûd everything changes. A double-sided relationship begins: both loving and wishing to be loved. Here lies the difference of love.
“A-L-H” is an isolated form of the name Allâh. Only 7 compositions can be obtained by changing the position of these letters. All of these indicate only one meaning: love. His Most Beautiful Names, Al-Asmâ’u'l-Husnâ, are the reflections of His (Swt) Love in the prism of names. The Names Ar-Rahmân and Ar-Rahîm, which are repeatedly recited by Muslims as part of Basmala, show that He (Swt) Is full of love and He Does whatever He Does with love.
Love attributed to Allâh (Swt) is expressed in words “Hubb” and “Wudd”. As for the word “Ashq”, which could also be rendered love in English, it is never used for the Divine Love in the literature dealing with the Noble Qur’ân and Sunnah. Because “Ashq”, which etymologically denotes “ivy” and “gripping and hanging on to the loved one like an ivy”, expresses the human love.
As for Hubb, it means “seed, pip, kernel”. The word Hububat (i.e. cereals) arises from here. It is obvious why love is called “Muhabbah”: Love is the seed of the tree of creation. And the human, who is the noblest fruit of the tree of creation, is the fruit of the seed of love, which bears its own seed in itself.
A fruit proves its faithfulness to its root by love. Human’s love to Allâh (Swt) is like this, too. That’s why it is stipulated by the Divine Revelation that the biggest share in love should be allotted to Allâh: “Those who believe love Allâh (Swt) more than anything”. And the Holy Prophet (Saws) is commanded to say the following: “Say: If you love Allâh (Swt), follow me so that Allâh (Swt) Loves you, too”.
Wudd expresses a special kind of love. This kind of love can only be bestowed. Since it bears an extract from its Giver (Swt), this love is eternal. Read the following Qur’ânic verse: “Ar-Rahmân will bestow (eternal) love (wudd) onto those who believe and do righteous good deeds.” It must be for this very reason that in the first years the Divine Revelation gave its addressees glad tidings of Paradise and threatened them with Hell while in later period, when they matured, the Divine Revelation gave glad tidings and warned by saying “Allâh (Swt) Loves - Allâh (Swt) Does Not Love”. This is indicative of how high a degree is reached by love in the relation between Allâh (Swt) and slave.
There is also fake love as there is a fake of everything. The true love puts in order, spurious love spoils. If at source it is not from Allâh (Swt), it is false love, and the one marketing it is a forger. The love which does not take its origin from the holy is not love but passion. Since love makes itself abundant it makes the human free, but passion arrests and enslaves. Those who call passion love, do the love itself an injustice by supposing the loneliness of two persons to be love.
The modern age has three false gods: power, money and sex. These make up the trinity of the lifestyle based on the belief that there is only the life of this world. Nowadays, the false god of sex is marketed under the name of “love” as part of the operation of global degradation. The holy thing entrusted to us, which we call life, has never been such a plaything in the hands of adulterers and adulteresses as it is now. Libido has never captured the consciousness to such an extent as it has today. The brokers of lust have never had so many clients all together.
The blowing up of sex under the name of “love” is a natural continuation of the global degradation operation. The aim of this operation is to make life senseless and purposeless, that is to say without Allâh (Swt). This is the real terror on which one should declare war. Because it is the terror of morals. This terror poses a threat to the whole human race. Enterprises engaged in marketing adultery under the name of “St. Valentine’s Day” are part of the terror of morls.
A person who cannot say “No” to adultery cannot say “Yes” to love. For adultrery poisons love. Poisoned love causes the human being, who is the most honourable of the creation, to resemble an insect that, after mating, stings and poisons its female. It makes the human being the most disgraceful of the creation, “like animals, even lower than them”, as worded by the Noble Qur’ân. Chastity starts to decay where there is no more privacy left, respect starts to decay where there is no more chastity left, disposition starts to decay where there is no more respect left. And nature starts to decay where there is no more disposition left.
If the nature has decayed, no one can hold that human. No one can set a limit for lust. No one can draw a mark for somebody saying “Amusement is mine, I can do whatever I want”. In the end, it comes to a seventeen-month-old baby. Laments for a seventeen-month-old baby having been a victim of rape expressed by a person who doesn’t say no committing adultery with a seventeen-year-old are similar to “crocodile tears”.
Let everyone bear the following in mind: There is either a limit or there are no limits at all.
Love is like light, lovelessness is like darkness. Darkness can’t have a source. Darkness is the state when there is no light. But there must always be a source for light. There can be no love without a source as there can be no light without a source.
Allâh (Swt) Is the Source of love. The river of love falls down from Allâh (Swt). For He (Swt) Is Al-Wadûd. The Name Al-Wadûd is in double voice. This voice is characterized by bearing in itself both active and passive forms. So, the Name Al-Wadûd means both “the Most Loving One” and “the Most Loved One”. To put it in other words, this name denotes both “the Ever Loving One” and “the One Wishing to be loved”. That’s the difference distinguishing this Name from others.
Allâh (Swt) Is Ar-Razzâq, “He Provides sustenance”. Allâh Is Al-Khalaq, “He Creates”. Allâh Is Al-Ghaffâr, “He Forgives”. Allâh Is Ar-Rahmân and “ He Has mercy”. These and the like Names are single-sided. But when it comes to the Name Al-Wadûd everything changes. A double-sided relationship begins: both loving and wishing to be loved. Here lies the difference of love.
“A-L-H” is an isolated form of the name Allâh. Only 7 compositions can be obtained by changing the position of these letters. All of these indicate only one meaning: love. His Most Beautiful Names, Al-Asmâ’u'l-Husnâ, are the reflections of His (Swt) Love in the prism of names. The Names Ar-Rahmân and Ar-Rahîm, which are repeatedly recited by Muslims as part of Basmala, show that He (Swt) Is full of love and He Does whatever He Does with love.
Love attributed to Allâh (Swt) is expressed in words “Hubb” and “Wudd”. As for the word “Ashq”, which could also be rendered love in English, it is never used for the Divine Love in the literature dealing with the Noble Qur’ân and Sunnah. Because “Ashq”, which etymologically denotes “ivy” and “gripping and hanging on to the loved one like an ivy”, expresses the human love.
As for Hubb, it means “seed, pip, kernel”. The word Hububat (i.e. cereals) arises from here. It is obvious why love is called “Muhabbah”: Love is the seed of the tree of creation. And the human, who is the noblest fruit of the tree of creation, is the fruit of the seed of love, which bears its own seed in itself.
A fruit proves its faithfulness to its root by love. Human’s love to Allâh (Swt) is like this, too. That’s why it is stipulated by the Divine Revelation that the biggest share in love should be allotted to Allâh: “Those who believe love Allâh (Swt) more than anything”. And the Holy Prophet (Saws) is commanded to say the following: “Say: If you love Allâh (Swt), follow me so that Allâh (Swt) Loves you, too”.
Wudd expresses a special kind of love. This kind of love can only be bestowed. Since it bears an extract from its Giver (Swt), this love is eternal. Read the following Qur’ânic verse: “Ar-Rahmân will bestow (eternal) love (wudd) onto those who believe and do righteous good deeds.” It must be for this very reason that in the first years the Divine Revelation gave its addressees glad tidings of Paradise and threatened them with Hell while in later period, when they matured, the Divine Revelation gave glad tidings and warned by saying “Allâh (Swt) Loves - Allâh (Swt) Does Not Love”. This is indicative of how high a degree is reached by love in the relation between Allâh (Swt) and slave.
There is also fake love as there is a fake of everything. The true love puts in order, spurious love spoils. If at source it is not from Allâh (Swt), it is false love, and the one marketing it is a forger. The love which does not take its origin from the holy is not love but passion. Since love makes itself abundant it makes the human free, but passion arrests and enslaves. Those who call passion love, do the love itself an injustice by supposing the loneliness of two persons to be love.
The modern age has three false gods: power, money and sex. These make up the trinity of the lifestyle based on the belief that there is only the life of this world. Nowadays, the false god of sex is marketed under the name of “love” as part of the operation of global degradation. The holy thing entrusted to us, which we call life, has never been such a plaything in the hands of adulterers and adulteresses as it is now. Libido has never captured the consciousness to such an extent as it has today. The brokers of lust have never had so many clients all together.
The blowing up of sex under the name of “love” is a natural continuation of the global degradation operation. The aim of this operation is to make life senseless and purposeless, that is to say without Allâh (Swt). This is the real terror on which one should declare war. Because it is the terror of morals. This terror poses a threat to the whole human race. Enterprises engaged in marketing adultery under the name of “St. Valentine’s Day” are part of the terror of morls.
A person who cannot say “No” to adultery cannot say “Yes” to love. For adultrery poisons love. Poisoned love causes the human being, who is the most honourable of the creation, to resemble an insect that, after mating, stings and poisons its female. It makes the human being the most disgraceful of the creation, “like animals, even lower than them”, as worded by the Noble Qur’ân. Chastity starts to decay where there is no more privacy left, respect starts to decay where there is no more chastity left, disposition starts to decay where there is no more respect left. And nature starts to decay where there is no more disposition left.
If the nature has decayed, no one can hold that human. No one can set a limit for lust. No one can draw a mark for somebody saying “Amusement is mine, I can do whatever I want”. In the end, it comes to a seventeen-month-old baby. Laments for a seventeen-month-old baby having been a victim of rape expressed by a person who doesn’t say no committing adultery with a seventeen-year-old are similar to “crocodile tears”.
Let everyone bear the following in mind: There is either a limit or there are no limits at all.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
The effect of saying Allah..
THIS IS NOT A FICTITIOUS STORY...
IT IS REAL AND VERIFIABLE ...
Vander Hoven, a psychologist from Netherlands,announced his new discovery about the effect of reading the Quran and repeating the word ALLAH both on patients and on normal persons. The Dutch professor confirms his discovery with studies and research applied on many patients over a period of three years.. Some of his patients were non-Muslims,others do not speak Arabic and were trained to pronounce the word 'ALLAH' clearly; the result was great, particularly on those who suffer from dejection and tension. Al Watan, a Saudi daily reported that the psychologist was quoted to say that Muslims who can read Arabic and who read the Quran regularly could protect themselves from psychological diseases.
The psychologist explained how each le tter in the word 'ALLAH' affects healing of psychological diseases. He pointed out in his research that pronouncing the first letter in theword 'ALLAH' which is the letter (A), released from the respiratory system, controls breathing. He added that pronouncing the velar consonant (L) in the Arabic way, with the tongue touching slightly the upper part of the jaw producing a short pause and then repeating the same pause constantly, relaxes the aspiration. Also, pronouncing the last letter which is the letter (H) makes a contact between the lungs and the heart and in turn this contact controls the heartbeat.
What is exciting in the study is that this psychologist is a non-Muslim, but interested in Islamic sciences and searching for the secrets of the Holy Quran. Allah, The Great and Glorious, says, We will show them Our signs in the universe and in their ownselves,until it becomes manifest to (remember me in ur Dua) ALLAHU AKBAR Allah is great .
IT IS REAL AND VERIFIABLE ...
Vander Hoven, a psychologist from Netherlands,announced his new discovery about the effect of reading the Quran and repeating the word ALLAH both on patients and on normal persons. The Dutch professor confirms his discovery with studies and research applied on many patients over a period of three years.. Some of his patients were non-Muslims,others do not speak Arabic and were trained to pronounce the word 'ALLAH' clearly; the result was great, particularly on those who suffer from dejection and tension. Al Watan, a Saudi daily reported that the psychologist was quoted to say that Muslims who can read Arabic and who read the Quran regularly could protect themselves from psychological diseases.
The psychologist explained how each le tter in the word 'ALLAH' affects healing of psychological diseases. He pointed out in his research that pronouncing the first letter in theword 'ALLAH' which is the letter (A), released from the respiratory system, controls breathing. He added that pronouncing the velar consonant (L) in the Arabic way, with the tongue touching slightly the upper part of the jaw producing a short pause and then repeating the same pause constantly, relaxes the aspiration. Also, pronouncing the last letter which is the letter (H) makes a contact between the lungs and the heart and in turn this contact controls the heartbeat.
What is exciting in the study is that this psychologist is a non-Muslim, but interested in Islamic sciences and searching for the secrets of the Holy Quran. Allah, The Great and Glorious, says, We will show them Our signs in the universe and in their ownselves,until it becomes manifest to (remember me in ur Dua) ALLAHU AKBAR Allah is great .
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Allah is Simply great ..isnt HE?
I have to rush through my projects, i'm really short of time. But its just one of the days today where i got distracted by Facebook and the pictures some of my friends uploaded from their long holidays.
While browsing through the profiles of others, i came across one of my old college acquaintainces.Lets call her Apple. Its her name that sounded familiar and thus,i clicked on it - had a further peek into her pictures. Back at college, she was very outgoing. She was active in college functions, dance events and many more activities that a muslim gal should not get involved in.
I heard from a friend about a year ago, that she bumped into Apple. When she called me, she was so excited and her praises for God were just overwhelming. She kept saying ' I saw Apple!! You know what?? She's wearing the Hijab now!!!! And she gave me her Salaam!!!'. i was equally suprised and excited as my friend. Also - Alhamdulillah that she embrace the Hijab and good Ahlaq.
And today, when i saw Apple's pictures on Facebook, I noticed how much her face has changed. She is so much more sweeter now. She's well covered, her Hijab fits her so beautifully. I can say it from my heart, that she looked such a pious and blessed angel in my eyes. She didnt upload any pictures of her without the Hijab. All her pictures were so modest. I also noticed that she joined groups that were in praise of Allah(s.w.t) and his prophet Muhammad (s.a.w). Unknowingly, i teared then. And my heart whispered - Syukur Alhamdullilah, Allahu Akhbar
In retrospect, i thought of how she looked like back at college days. Allah has brought Deen into her heart, opened her heart to Islam, and allow her to accept the light. HE made her embrace the Hijab. HE changed made her look far more beautiful than she was. To think of it, this all happened in a matter of 2 years. Well, what is 2 years and 2 minutes when its all Allah's doings?
If HE wills, he will.
Allah is all hearing, ever fogiving. If HE means something for his muqmin, its just miraculous in the way HE does it. May be Apple was receptive to the faith and thats what turned it all around.
I remember Brother Yusof Islam's account. He was caught in a wild sea storm and he said a prayer at that time . I cant remember it word for word, but i guess this is just the gist of it ' God, if u save me from this, I promise i will spend the rest of my life for you.' In my opinion, that moment, he was receptive and open to the true faith.
This also reminds me of a story i received via email which said that, God won't help people who dont help themselves.
May Allah give the opportunity for the hearts of many Muslim brothers and sisters who have gone astray. There are many namesake muslims who are staining the image of Islam, knowingly or unknowingly. May Allah bring Deen into their hearts and Nur on the faces.Inshallah.
Ameen.
Lets all Muslims, make this world a better place for everyone.
While browsing through the profiles of others, i came across one of my old college acquaintainces.Lets call her Apple. Its her name that sounded familiar and thus,i clicked on it - had a further peek into her pictures. Back at college, she was very outgoing. She was active in college functions, dance events and many more activities that a muslim gal should not get involved in.
I heard from a friend about a year ago, that she bumped into Apple. When she called me, she was so excited and her praises for God were just overwhelming. She kept saying ' I saw Apple!! You know what?? She's wearing the Hijab now!!!! And she gave me her Salaam!!!'. i was equally suprised and excited as my friend. Also - Alhamdulillah that she embrace the Hijab and good Ahlaq.
And today, when i saw Apple's pictures on Facebook, I noticed how much her face has changed. She is so much more sweeter now. She's well covered, her Hijab fits her so beautifully. I can say it from my heart, that she looked such a pious and blessed angel in my eyes. She didnt upload any pictures of her without the Hijab. All her pictures were so modest. I also noticed that she joined groups that were in praise of Allah(s.w.t) and his prophet Muhammad (s.a.w). Unknowingly, i teared then. And my heart whispered - Syukur Alhamdullilah, Allahu Akhbar
In retrospect, i thought of how she looked like back at college days. Allah has brought Deen into her heart, opened her heart to Islam, and allow her to accept the light. HE made her embrace the Hijab. HE changed made her look far more beautiful than she was. To think of it, this all happened in a matter of 2 years. Well, what is 2 years and 2 minutes when its all Allah's doings?
If HE wills, he will.
Allah is all hearing, ever fogiving. If HE means something for his muqmin, its just miraculous in the way HE does it. May be Apple was receptive to the faith and thats what turned it all around.
I remember Brother Yusof Islam's account. He was caught in a wild sea storm and he said a prayer at that time . I cant remember it word for word, but i guess this is just the gist of it ' God, if u save me from this, I promise i will spend the rest of my life for you.' In my opinion, that moment, he was receptive and open to the true faith.
This also reminds me of a story i received via email which said that, God won't help people who dont help themselves.
May Allah give the opportunity for the hearts of many Muslim brothers and sisters who have gone astray. There are many namesake muslims who are staining the image of Islam, knowingly or unknowingly. May Allah bring Deen into their hearts and Nur on the faces.Inshallah.
Ameen.
Lets all Muslims, make this world a better place for everyone.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
The Husband as the Ruler.
“Men are the rulers over women because Allah has bestowed ranks to some of them above others and because they (men) spend of their wealth (for the maintenance of women)”
(Ayat 34 Surah Nisa)
In describing the man, Allah Ta’ala in his ayat, mentions the word qaw-wamoen which is the plural of qaw-wam. In Arabic, qaw-wam refers to someone who has the responsibility of administering a system. He is in charge of executing the affairs and operation of the system which has been entrusted to him. A qaw-wam is, therefore, a ruler. The Quran-e-Hakeem uses this term in this very meaning. Thus, Allah Ta’ala says that ‘Men are the rulers of (or over) women’.
Just as a community or a nation requires a ruler for proper and efficient functioning of the affairs of society, so too does the home unit stand in need of a ruler to ensure that the home affairs progress smoothly and correctly along the divinely ordained pattern conceived by the Shariah. The man in the house has, thus been appointed the ruler or overseer.
While Islam has bestowed many rights to women, the Quran-e-Hakeem confirms his superior rank and announces his appointment as the ruler of women.
There Is no gainsaying that man is the ruler/guide/overseer in his home. The Quran Majeed is explicit in this declaration and the ahadith of Rasullulah (s.a.w) are replete with his significance and superiority over woman.
While this is indisputably so, the husband should not commit the grave error of assuming his superiority and his appointment as the ruler/leader permit him to rule his family at his whimsical and temperamental behest. It is essential that the husband understands that along with his rank and position, comes responsibility of a grave and sacred nature. His appointment as the Ruler of Woman is not a licence for misdirecting authority. His position as the head of the family does not entitle him to introduce a reign of misery in the home. His superiority over his wife does not bestow to him the right of enslaving her. The wife’s obedience to her husband, emphasized and made incumbent by Allah Ta’ala, does not allow him to adopt a master and servant relationship at home. His elevated rank is not permission for violating, denying and neglecting the rights (Huqooq) which Islam orders for women and children. On the contrary, all such violations and behavioural attitudes not conducive for the correct functioning of an Islamic home, are heavily prescribed by the lofty office he has the husband/father occupies. In short, the husband is not allowed to adopt a bullying attitude. He does not enjoy the right to impose on his wife his wishes, whims and fancies just as he desires and in any way he feels.
Rasullulah(s.a.w) said:
“Everyone of you is a shepherd and everyone of you will be questioned about his flock”.
The husband is the shepherd of his home. On the day of Qiyamah he will have to answer in the Divine Court how he treated his flock. The rights and obligations he has towards his wife and children and sacred injunctions ordained by Rabbul-Alameen. (Allah – the creator and sustainer of all worlds) . An account of his reign of the home will be demanded from him. Thus, he should understand that commensurate of correctly and adequately discharging the Amanat (sacred trust) imposed on him by Allah Ta’ala. On that day of terror – Yaumul Qiyamah – when the unjust and cruel husband who had misused his lofty position and misdirected his authority here in this transitory abode, will be hauled to stand trial in Allah’s court of Justice, he will wish that he never was a husband nor a father nor the ruler in the home. About the awful state of that day of mighty upheavals, terror and fear, the Quran Majeed says:
“(That Day) will be a day when a man will flee from his brother, mother, father, wife and his children”
It is therefore, imperative that the husband/father takes a reckoning of his rule of the home before a reckoning will be demanded from him at a time when he will be ill-prepared of wholly incapable of submitting an appropriate account of his worldly conduct.
This is precisely the purport of Rasullulah’s (s.a.w) saying:
“Take a reckoning (of yourself) before a reckoning will be demanded (from you)”
(Ayat 34 Surah Nisa)
In describing the man, Allah Ta’ala in his ayat, mentions the word qaw-wamoen which is the plural of qaw-wam. In Arabic, qaw-wam refers to someone who has the responsibility of administering a system. He is in charge of executing the affairs and operation of the system which has been entrusted to him. A qaw-wam is, therefore, a ruler. The Quran-e-Hakeem uses this term in this very meaning. Thus, Allah Ta’ala says that ‘Men are the rulers of (or over) women’.
Just as a community or a nation requires a ruler for proper and efficient functioning of the affairs of society, so too does the home unit stand in need of a ruler to ensure that the home affairs progress smoothly and correctly along the divinely ordained pattern conceived by the Shariah. The man in the house has, thus been appointed the ruler or overseer.
While Islam has bestowed many rights to women, the Quran-e-Hakeem confirms his superior rank and announces his appointment as the ruler of women.
There Is no gainsaying that man is the ruler/guide/overseer in his home. The Quran Majeed is explicit in this declaration and the ahadith of Rasullulah (s.a.w) are replete with his significance and superiority over woman.
While this is indisputably so, the husband should not commit the grave error of assuming his superiority and his appointment as the ruler/leader permit him to rule his family at his whimsical and temperamental behest. It is essential that the husband understands that along with his rank and position, comes responsibility of a grave and sacred nature. His appointment as the Ruler of Woman is not a licence for misdirecting authority. His position as the head of the family does not entitle him to introduce a reign of misery in the home. His superiority over his wife does not bestow to him the right of enslaving her. The wife’s obedience to her husband, emphasized and made incumbent by Allah Ta’ala, does not allow him to adopt a master and servant relationship at home. His elevated rank is not permission for violating, denying and neglecting the rights (Huqooq) which Islam orders for women and children. On the contrary, all such violations and behavioural attitudes not conducive for the correct functioning of an Islamic home, are heavily prescribed by the lofty office he has the husband/father occupies. In short, the husband is not allowed to adopt a bullying attitude. He does not enjoy the right to impose on his wife his wishes, whims and fancies just as he desires and in any way he feels.
Rasullulah(s.a.w) said:
“Everyone of you is a shepherd and everyone of you will be questioned about his flock”.
The husband is the shepherd of his home. On the day of Qiyamah he will have to answer in the Divine Court how he treated his flock. The rights and obligations he has towards his wife and children and sacred injunctions ordained by Rabbul-Alameen. (Allah – the creator and sustainer of all worlds) . An account of his reign of the home will be demanded from him. Thus, he should understand that commensurate of correctly and adequately discharging the Amanat (sacred trust) imposed on him by Allah Ta’ala. On that day of terror – Yaumul Qiyamah – when the unjust and cruel husband who had misused his lofty position and misdirected his authority here in this transitory abode, will be hauled to stand trial in Allah’s court of Justice, he will wish that he never was a husband nor a father nor the ruler in the home. About the awful state of that day of mighty upheavals, terror and fear, the Quran Majeed says:
“(That Day) will be a day when a man will flee from his brother, mother, father, wife and his children”
It is therefore, imperative that the husband/father takes a reckoning of his rule of the home before a reckoning will be demanded from him at a time when he will be ill-prepared of wholly incapable of submitting an appropriate account of his worldly conduct.
This is precisely the purport of Rasullulah’s (s.a.w) saying:
“Take a reckoning (of yourself) before a reckoning will be demanded (from you)”
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